Many of us live most of the time with stress, fears, grief, insecurities, and so on. Most of us believe that life is hard. We live trying to control things, people, events and circumstances. We are so afraid of disappointments, suffering and pain that we feel the need to control our lives and what is going to happen to us. This can create a lot of resistance of accepting and living life as it is.
What is resistance and what it does to us?
There are many types of resistance. Some may resist love, compassion, apologies, money, relationships, happiness, and some may even resist accepting their bodies or who they are. Resistance keeps us very narrow. When we resist something, we are not living in the flow of life. We are not living from our best self, from a place of peace, knowing and wisdom. When you resist, you go against the current instead of going with the flow.
What does it mean to live in the flow?
To live in the flow is to trust life. It is to be grateful and accept life as it is. It is to believe that you are never alone and that something bigger than you are-is directing and guiding you. Living from the flow will help you to attract the right people and things to your life. Not necessarily the things or people that perhaps you think you need, but instead the ones the universe knows are the right ones for you, so you can achieve what you are looking for and fulfill your life�s purpose. Living in the flow means that you are leaving in the present moment and making the best of it. When living from a place of acceptance, life takes a different direction, you no longer need to prove to people who you are- with material things or whatever might be. You feel that you are on the right place and doing the right thing. On the other hand, the road of resistance will take you nowhere. It will keep you stuck because you are just stopping the flow of energy, the flow of life. When you live from a place of resistance, it might affect your life deeply. It might affect even your health.
A good way of getting to know and get in touch with your resistance is not to resist to it. Bring the resistance to your awareness. Relax, let the resistance come and talk to it. Talk to your resistance and ask:
What are you here for?
What are you here to teach me?
What do I need to do in order to let you go?
Acknowledge your resistance, make peace with it, learn from it and let it go.
If something is not going as you want them to, check with your heart and soul what you have being resisted to-or what are you trying to control, and how you are doing that. Becoming aware that resistance comes in many different ways and being able to tap into it and be able to address the roots, it will set you free. And freedom will allow you to live with the flow of life. It is part of our nature the desire to be free. We can do that by becoming aware of what is really going on in our lives, detecting resistances and really knowing that when you live in the flow of life, you get in touch with your inner power/intuition and live in synchrony with the universe. You will start to attract what you need at the right time. There is a sense of joy and no need to control people or things. You do not push life instead life guides you. You leave in the present moment and the present moment which is really a present will take you where you have to go in an easy and peaceful way.
Exercise:
Go to a beautiful park or place where there are trees, especially big ones with lots of shades. Sit there for a moment and listen to nature. Listen to the way the trees bounce back and forth with the wind. Listen to birds if there is any. Or listen to the wind itself or anything else that might be making noise. Become aware of the stillness that is around. The peace and how nature lives in the flow of life. Nothing is forced. There is no resistance, yet everything is perfect and beautiful. Take a couple of deep breaths and keep observing and feeling the peace. Become still.
How would your life look like if you lived from a place of trust and stillness?
How would you feel if you lived in the flow?
How much would you be able to accomplish if your mind were free of worries, fears, disappointments, anger, grief, regrets, resentment or necessity to control life?
Life is phenomenal, and we need to become aware that many times what it is in our way is our own resistance to see and experience life as it is. You have the power to see, feel, understand, accept and let it go of your resistance(s). When you leave without resistance, you surrender to life and live in the flow.
Marny Maia Doná
What a wonderful article!! It is so true & profound, and even a bit painful to see in yourself too! But to have attention brought to it, can be the catalist for change. You are very writing and insight is very inspiring, and really makes me want to change a few things!!!